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Stop Being a Hypocrite: The 5 Most Common Hypocrisies That Go Unnoticed

Stop Being a Hypocrite: The 5 Most Common Hypocrisies That Go Unnoticed

 

 

“The Golden Rule: one should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself.”

Sadly, this isn’t always the case. We’ve had a long history of being hypocritical, and in most cases we’re unaware of the double standards we’ve been imposing on others in daily life. With the booming growth of social media, everyone’s got something to say about everything, and as history has shown us time and again, it’s not always a good thing. Too many opinions tend to complicate things, and it’s easy to contradict our own principles (or even our last Facebook update!) when we talk too much and think too little. The urge to express our thoughts and feelings is only natural; overdo it, however, and you’ll be contributing to a swirl of hypocrisies that we think are logical, but really aren’t.

Hypocrisy #1: Judging the opposite gender

There are millions of articles on how it’s wrong for men to judge women based on their looks. These articles are advocates for the acceptance of inner beauty: talents, traits and winning personalities over perfect figures and gorgeous looks. It’s insulting for a man to point out the imperfections in a woman’s appearance, or even worse, to use these imperfections as a guideline in selecting his partner. But many women seem to have no qualms about rejecting guys who are shorter or unattractive by their standards. We think it’s distasteful for men to compare our looks behind our backs, yet the subject of many girl-talks seem to be who’s hot and who’s not. This age-old hypocrisy will probably be around for a longer while yet, but we can all do our part by minimizing the criticism.

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Hypocrisy #2: Size-shaming

There are two things you should never ask a woman: her age and her weight. There are also two things you should never do: fat-shaming and skinny-shaming. Fat-shaming is a by-product of conventional (and sometimes overly strict) beauty standards; skinny-shaming is a by-product of defying these standards. Sometimes skinny-shaming is used as a way to help people feel more confident about their figures, so it hasn’t gained as much criticism as fat-shaming. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Telling people that they’re beautiful just the way they are is good, but it shouldn’t be exclusively reserved for people who don’t have a skinny physique. Everyone is beautiful, but this will only happen if we stop all the shaming. (And for the record, #youdidnoteatthat? Nice of you to demonstrate how skinny-shaming is like.)

Hypocrisy #3: Discrimination

Nowadays, if someone admits to being racist, he better prepare to be bombarded by an avalanche of chiding comments and articles. The world is far more liberal today than it was centuries ago; we respect and defend the fact that all people are created equal. For big issues like race and religion, many people are quick to point out how wrong it is to judge someone by their skin colour or by their beliefs. In reality, discrimination is much more common, particularly in the workplace. The many subtle forms of discrimination can make people think that they’re not discriminating against someone, but the fact is, if you’ve made an unfair assumption about someone and denied them the same treatment you give others, it constitutes discrimination. Age, gender, gender-identity and disability discrimination are just some forms of discrimination that are still widely in practice today. It’s not easy trying to be fair to everyone, so don’t rush into criticism when you see someone being discriminated against; try to help and reflect on your actions as well.

Hypocrisy #4: Social media outrage

The tragedy of MH 370 sparked a slew of conspiracy theories and outrages all over social media. And while there were encouraging messages being updated daily, it could not erase the fact that additional emotional damage had been inflicted upon aggrieved family members and friends, with those responsible none the wiser. We criticize people when they post mean comments or slander others on social media, but participating in a social media outrage in times of tragedy can cause much more harm and is definitely a far worse crime. When you’re worried for the safety of a loved one, does it help to see people pointing fingers at each other, especially people who don’t seem to be the least bit involved? It’s normal to feel disappointed and even disgusted by the news we receive from social media, but some opinions are best kept to ourselves. It may not have been intentional, but those who are really suffering would definitely appreciate a little less emotional baggage.

Hypocrisy #5: Loving the environment

Buying eco-friendly products or participating in a charity event to save the environment won’t make us any less of a hypocrite if we continue to waste precious resources at our current rate. If we’re to really save the environment, it’ll be the little things that count; small changes in wasteful habits and living a truly sustainable lifestyle. Allowing water to flow freely from the tap while brushing our teeth can be as toxic as the highly-condemned act of throwing rubbish into rivers. There are so many seemingly insignificant things we do that are corroding our environment, and it’s time to acknowledge that we can’t keep destroying and repairing our environment. Big campaigns like Earth Hour will never be effective enough if we continue to use air-conditioning at full blast and leave the lights on when we’re not in. It’s time to stop living in self-denial and face the problem head on.

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Photo credits:

Fat shaming & skinny shaming: helenwalker.com.au

www.eatthedamncake.com, www.everydirlguide.com

Environment cartoon: www.drroyspencer.com

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