The never-ending battle towards achieving the ‘perfect’ body

The never-ending battle towards achieving the ‘perfect’ body

Every decade or so, society changes its mind about what it feels the ‘perfect’ body should look like. Although social media platforms are filled with inspirational posts about loving your own body, no matter how it looks, the obsession with weight is still a huge thing.


We give props and praise to plus-sized women who are not afraid to put themselves in the public eye, but at the same time, normal-sized women are receiving critiques about how big they look.


Even Blogilates founder and fitness trainer Cassey Ho was not excluded from harsh comments about her size and weight. Despite her profession, people still fat-shamed her, questioning her professionalism and asking her to ‘lose weight before training other people’.



From this website, I also managed to find out more about the following celebrities:


Jennifer Lawrence, 26, is 175cm tall and weighs 63kg.



Katy Perry, 31, is 173cm tall and weighs 61kg.



Chloe Grace Moretz, 19, is 163cm and weighs 54kg.



Demi Lovato, 24, is 161cm tall and weighs 58kg.



Emilia Clarke, 29, is 157cm tall and weighs 52kg.



All these women have been labelled by the media as ‘fat’ or ‘big’, but the scary truth is, they weigh the same as any other normal woman would. Maybe even less – Katy Perry’s BMI clocks in at 19.9. Any lower than 18.5, and she would be considered underweight.


Even though I know I shouldn’t be affected by how society perceives me, I admit that it makes me feel inadequate at times. My BMI is 22.5. I feel the pressure to work out more and make healthy eating choices, because I don’t want to be called fat or plump.


But then again, how accurate is BMI? It calculates whether you’re in a healthy range by taking into account your age, weight and height. But what if you have a higher muscle mass? People with higher muscle mass tend to weigh more, but they have lesser amounts of body fat – that’s what makes them heavier on the scales. Thankfully, there are now expert opinions on how BMI is no longer seen as an accurate indication of one’s health.


In one of her videos, Cassey Ho said that she has stopped weighing herself regularly because weight should not be a true representation of how fit you are. I agree. I don’t have a scale at home (mainly because I haven’t gotten around to buying one), but whenever I go home to visit my parents, one of the first things I do is to step on my mom’s digital scale and see if I still weight the same. In the morning, after lunch, after dinner, before going to sleep… I just can’t stay away. I know it’s bad, but I do it anyway.


That brings me to the question: do I need to starve myself so that I can weigh less? Food, for me, is a weakness. I love eating. That’s why on weekdays, I try to pack my own lunch to work. It’s usually meat-free, because I’m too lazy. But during dinnertime and weekends, I indulge. Maybe sometimes a bit too much, but eating is bliss.


I see a lot of skinny young girls in KL. They’re probably two sizes smaller than I am (I’m currently a Medium), but they’re not fit. Yes, their thighs are the size of my calves, but they, too, fall prey to cellulite and visible paunches. Is that the new definition of ‘beautiful’?


Personally, I think that something needs to change before the younger generation becomes deluded into believing wrong information about weight and beauty. What we see on Instagram isn’t always real. Girls sharing their perfect #wokeuplikethis selfies make us feel self-conscious about going out bare-faced. Tight abs, thigh gaps and ridiculous challenges like the A4 paper challenge and the belly button challenge only serve to make women even more self-conscious about their bodies than they already are.



Just because one has abs, a thigh gap, and can hide behind a vertically-held piece of A4 paper, doesn’t meant that she is healthy or happy. For now, we should focus more on being healthy because it makes us happy.


I’m not as light as I would love to be on the weighing scale, but I’m thankful that my joints don’t hurt.

I’m not blessed with pore-less, Beauty Plus-free skin, but I’m thankful for good skin days once in a while.

I’m not as fit as the other women around me, but I’m thankful for being able to dig into a pizza on the weekend.


What are you thankful for?



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