As I progress past the prime ‘getting married’ age, my Facebook feed is saturated with engagement/wedding/baby photos. And not forgetting a lot of shared links along the lines of this, this, this and this.
This one, though, takes the cake. Seriously, 99 facts guys should know about girls? I mean, this might have been written by an intern (no hate for interns though) or a lowly-paid freelancer whose only concern is to cram out posts before the deadline…
We turn to Google a lot to find out about important things in life. I have searched for things like ‘How do gingko nuts grow?’ and a countless number of hot actors (like Jai Courtney and Liam Hemsworth), and have walked away feeling like a genius in a certain topic. But since when did the internet become the designated love guru for all dating couples?
I’m not here to badmouth my fellow girl species, but sometimes ladies have the most nonsensical logic. I have an acquaintance, who seems to think that her boyfriend is expected to know what she wants/needs without her having to say it out loud. One Valentine’s Day, he took her to an Italian restaurant, only to have her throw a tantrum because it wasn’t a fine dining establishment. He got a present, which wasn’t what she wanted, and to cut a long story short, he ended up having to get her a replacement gift and and take her to a fancy AF restaurant to make things up.
All this could have been avoided with one simple word: communication. A relationship is a two-way thing. And guys, being guys, aren’t able to guess what us girls want, no matter how thickly we lay out the hints. In order to get what you want and what you feel you deserve, you’ll have to say it as it is. There’s no shame in telling someone what you want. At a restaurant, you wouldn’t just tell the waiter, “Surprise me.” You’d make a specific order for your meal/drink, and truth be told, in my humble opinion, that’s what you should do when you communicate with your partner. You might say, “There’s no fun in that – I love surprises!” But what if you psyche yourself up so much to expect something else, and get fractionally less in real life? Isn’t that even more disappointing?
We’ve been constantly brainwashed by romantic movies to think that two people in a relationship should be able to understand and predict what the other person is thinking. That couldn’t be more wrong. In this time and age, everyone is all big on ‘self-expression’ and ‘making a statement’ and trying their best to stand out.
If that’s the case, then why are we turning to the internet to suggest what we should and should not do in relationships? Does that mean that all men and all women will hence be generalised as a ‘gender’ instead of an ‘individual’? Not all women and men think alike; relationship goals are definitely not a one-size-fits-all thing. Plus, who is the internet to tell us that ‘oh, we’re pretty sure your girlfriend would love this necklace’ or ‘hey, this is the perfect gift for your husband’? Aren’t we supposed to be the ones who know our other halves better?
I mean, it’s okay to search Google for answers to ‘what fruits have the least sugar content’ or ‘cafes in Damansara Uptown’, but ‘what to get my wife for her birthday’? Seriously?
The moral of this story is that if you want to know more about what your significant other wants, ASK HIM OR HER. NOT THE INTERNET.
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